Elio José Mirabal Martínez
05/25/2020
Excellent help or advice. In my case, jealousy arises due to the incorporation of a third person between my wife and me without consulting my opinion. I feel displaced by a girl, I feel betrayed, I was taken out of my wife’s heart or I was simply never in her heart. It is very difficult for me to live like this, I think about stopping living every day.
Lark
05/24/2020
Hello, my partner is depressed and I don’t know how to help him. We met online and we have a long-distance relationship, everything was nice until his illness started. I was always there, even if it was just to talk to him on WhatsApp, trying to make him think positively, but it doesn’t work anymore, his family doesn’t help him, they actually make his illness worse. And I see it clearly since he is no longer so interested in me, he has gained a lot of weight that he also lost, he is irritable and sometimes he gets angry with me about things that I have nothing to do with, he has no sexual interest sometimes and I don’t know what to do or how. talk to him now. I’m afraid of losing it and not having done anything, can someone please guide me?
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Bridgette
12/27/2020
Am I in the same? What do you advise?
Albert
12/19/2021
Some advice from the male point of view:
1. The most important thing is you, protect your emotional health
2. Loving someone implies acceptance, company and growth.
3. Accepting is recognizing the other person and validating their life experience, the same for you, so search your heart to see how much you are willing to accept your partner’s situation, the answer does not matter but how sincere you are with yourself and your answer.
4. The company requires reaching out to the person, improving emotional and mental health implies seeking professional help like any other illness, you can suggest therapeutic support, for your partner, for yourself, couples therapy. If the other person doesn’t recognize their situation it doesn’t matter, at least you will be in a better space to grow.
5. Ask yourself if you are growing, and growing is not abandoning, or letting go, etc. Growing up is being responsible for your life and your relationship, and from a space of adulthood, deciding what you need to live better, no one will have that answer but you.
I hope my opinion helps you reach a space of peace.
Ingrid
05/12/2020 I have been with my partner for almost two years and I think he has depression because I have already done enough information and he meets most of the symptoms. She is a person who has had a lot of problems, on top of that she has pretended for years that she was fine when she really wasn’t and well, she ended up exploding. She can’t take it anymore and I’m afraid.
I understand that she needs her space and all that but I notice she is quite distant. I already told her that I will do everything I can to help her. What worries me is that she urgently needs a psychologist but due to the current situation it is complicated.
I’ve thought about talking to his sister so she can be informed but she doesn’t like me and I don’t know what to do. Her family is not aware of what is happening to my partner, nor are her friends, only I know and I need to seek help or what I should do to distract her since we live two hours away and we are not together.
Jovana
04/16/2020
My partner has depression and is alone, he has no friends and has almost no relationship with his family, except for money, since they support him, pay him an apartment and monthly payment. I loved him very much but I’m tired of him refusing to go to a psychologist and telling me that the only thing he needs is someone who loves him and lives with him. We don’t live together, I’m studying and I don’t have the opportunity where he lives. Then I asked him if he could wait for me until he finished, that we were going to continue seeing each other but that it was better that I meet him. And he doesn’t want to wait for me, he says that he won’t be able to stand being alone any longer, that he is going crazy and that he is going to commit suicide without realizing it. He has always taken a victim position and does not want to go for treatment, and when I want to help him he gets angry. But then he says he loves me, apologizes and we move on. I no longer feel love for him, I only feel guilt, pity because he is alone, and anger because he makes me responsible for his life and his desire to live. I want to leave him, but I know that he is going to take revenge by hurting himself. He has even accused me of being selfish and threatening to publish private things for “promising to be there for him and not following through.” I tried to look for his brother who lives in another country but I couldn’t find him and I don’t know anything else about his family.
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Camilq
08/01/2020
Hello, those self-destructive comments seem more like borderline personality disorder than depression itself. Be careful, they are very manipulative.
Matias
01/24/2021
Incredible to read you, very similar happens to me with my wife…
Felipe ferrada
04/02/2020
I need guidance since her family has no interest in her or in seeing a psychologist or in getting better.
VICTORIA ABIGAIL
03/18/2020
Can a depressed person make you depressed…??
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Valeria
05/15/2020
I think so!
Glory
03/04/2020
Hello, my boyfriend is very cute, he has ideas of improving himself and he insists on doing so, he exercises and is very responsible, but he always has a breakdown in the mornings and starts crying and says that he is a very horrible person and that he doesn’t love me. damage in the morning he even closed the store and left his keys inside because of the impulse to go to the gym to see if he felt better it’s only in the mornings then it goes away but when they hit him it’s horrible I don’t like seeing him like that and I don’t know how help you
Laura goñi
03/03/2020
I don’t know what to do anymore, I’m getting sick. I’ve been with my husband and his depression for 14 years. I already feel tired and physically ill. I can’t take it anymore but I don’t want to abandon it, I would feel like a bad person. But I’m suffocating, it’s terrible, I feel like I’m already getting mentally ill, I’ve endured so much.
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Light
05/04/2020
Hello, and why don’t you go to the doctor?
Jeremiah
02/24/2020
Hello, I barely know about this, my wife had been suffering from Asia for a while, she was 8 months pregnant and one day she had a crisis because from that point on she is very bad.
Claudia
01/18/2020
Good morning, my boyfriend suffered from depression when we met, he told me.
He told me not to be alarmed when he walked away, there were times when he wanted solitude, but that he would handle that so he wouldn’t think it was because he didn’t want to be with me, that he loved me and didn’t want to lose me.
He is irritable and I feel distant and I don’t know what to do.
He is the one who talks to me right now, but only through chat,
I feel cold with me, I understand that he wants to be alone. I don’t know if I can greet him or should I walk away until he looks for me?
I want to help him, he even told me that he didn’t know whether to continue the relationship that I deserved with someone who wouldn’t give me problems.
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Light
05/04/2020
Hello Claudia, I imagine it is very difficult to be in your situation. But why doesn’t your boyfriend go to the doctor?
Ciela
12/24/2019
I think that my partner is suffering from depression, it has always been like this since we were dating, but sometimes it goes down and then it increases. I can’t stand it anymore, I don’t know what to do, he doesn’t feel satisfied with himself, he says no. Having achieved what he wants in life, he has problems with a restaurant and with his father, that is the cause of his depression (I think) he does not want to go to the hairdresser, he does not want to eat, he becomes aggressive, sad, without spirit, it affects me even though he does not Believe it or not, the children don’t know what to do, they don’t have any family here, only their dad and they hate each other. They don’t want to admit that they’re not okay. They don’t want to go to the psychologist. They change their temperament quickly. Now they laugh and in an instant they get angry and they always blame me. me. He is Italian and I am Dominican, they say that they think and act differently than Dominicans, but I think they are excuses for not admitting that he is not okay. I don’t want to leave him because I love him, but how can I help him if he doesn’t leave? Some advice please
John
12/16/2019
My partner and I have had to go to the emergency room several times due to outbursts of anger toward me due to what appears to be “depression” according to the psychiatrist who treated us. Your family does not know or understand what depression is. I’m afraid to stay in the relationship but I don’t want to leave my partner stranded. We have already made an appointment for mental health but for anything it is synonymous with arguing for a whole day and even reaching (if I am not clever) the uncontrolled anger of my partner turned towards me with mild physical attacks but clearly my partner loses total control in these moments. I don’t want to report him nor will I. She has also forbidden me from talking to her mother (who does not understand depression and sees it as a simple act of rebellion on the part of my partner), however her mother does not know the many threats of suicide that she has made to me just for bringing up the subject. to end the relationship, which right now I’m very afraid to tell him. I don’t know what to do, I want to help her but I fear for myself too. I would like to express to her mother what is happening to her so that she can help her but I would have to do it behind her back. What do you advise me? It is urgent. Thank you.
Matias
12/05/2019
I would like to receive more information on how to help my partner.
She is very depressed to the point that suicide crosses her mind. She doesn’t know how to help her anymore, she doesn’t want to go to a professional and I can’t take it anymore. She tried to be as understanding and patient as possible but it doesn’t improve.
Is there any activity that can be done to improve your confidence, willpower or something?
Mary Angels
12/05/2019
Hello good.
I find myself in the situation where my partner tells me that he is depressed, he has already suffered from depression before I met him.
He makes me responsible for his state, he is irritable about everything, that I don’t empathize with him, that I don’t value him, in short, that he only wants things to be done from his point of view.
I feel helpless because I see myself as dominated and I don’t know whether to go along with him or confront him, which causes more arguments.
Can you guide me please?
Lorraine
10/19/2019
These articles are very interesting, however I would like to know what happens if both people in the relationship suffer from depression, what to do.
Pillar
10/10/2019
My partner has all these symptoms, I feel more and more distanced, because I am exhausted from seeing how he sees no way out of his situation, I can no longer give him affection, which is perhaps what he needs most, he tells him that he needed help from a professional and I did not understand, since his stress consists of spending many hours away from home for his work and does not enjoy life, (Saturday and Sunday he does not work), he claims that I do have a life, I am a housewife . All the best.
Katharine
09/07/2019 Good afternoon.
My husband tells me that he has depression, he feels alone and can’t find meaning in life. What I can do
He lost his parents because of that, life has been very hard on RL but he has come out ahead with a very strong character.
Eight ago. Days she lost his godfather. The closest he was to his father has changed and he doesn’t feel the courage. For nothing, not for anyone, please help me get out of this situation, thank you
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