Gladys graterol
07/21/2023
Good afternoon, what can be done when parents mistreat their children and do not allow family members to have contact with these children?
Keren Perez
02/11/2023
Hello, I am only 17 years old, almost 18, and I have had problems with my family, and I have told them that I wanted to talk to them for a long time. And sometimes it is difficult for me to say/do with them and sometimes if I can tell them things and sometimes the facts can hurt me psychologically, physically it would be mild and I almost only live with my 2 uncles, my grandmother, absent mother and father, well I hardly I have known them since my childhood… and it is very difficult for me, as I will tell you, how I feel since my family always fights and sometimes I want to show that just as much as they and I, we can make mistakes. Nowadays, it almost always suits them how they are going to listen, and I hardly get affection, only when there are achievements or birthdays, I have tried to calm down and control my anxiety and depression. I don’t know how I’ll do it, I just need to be able to be with them and not argue or get angry… sometimes it hurts me and it’s hard for me.
DFEY
02/08/2023
I’m only 11 years old, my mom went on a trip to Italy and I only have my dad and my brother, my brother is very funny and when I try to make jokes with my dad he always gets angry, I don’t know because I know it’s because of his job but I I feel confused because when I want to make jokes with him he yells at me or other times he gives me my tablet and according to me it is so that I drop it because I talk a lot and my dad gets stressed I don’t know if he loves me or not but the bad thing is that after days My dad tells me “I love you daughter” and gives me a hug, I mean I feel confused, I don’t know if I should be sad or angry, the truth is I feel confused.
Paula
01/08/2023
I have always lived in my parents’ house, I have recently moved to another community to study and be able to work. The problem I have, and hence my anxiety, is that they have always been controlling where I go, who I go out with and now they want to continue doing the same. They want me to share my location constantly with a new application that has been released, they say it is for security in case something bad happens to me. I don’t know how to tell them that I need them to give me my space and that I don’t want to put up that application since I consider that with my age and maturity I can take care of myself. If they continue to control me like this, they miss me and I feel very bad and my freedom feels very restricted.
How can I tell them this without hurting them?
thank you so much.
ale
10/12/2021
I don’t know how much they complain that they are beaten, that they wash the slab, they should appreciate that they have them under a roof with a bed and food, they look like little girls just crying, one here is from Brazil and they left me hanging with a lady and then she adopted me another lady after going through like 5 families and only being 6 years old and that family that rescued you doesn’t let you do exactly anything, I have a 6.9 average and with that but if I had grades 4 or rjos punish me go to school xux, they cry over pure stupidities. I am currently 17 years old and as soon as I turn 18 I start working, studying and without owing anything to anyone.
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YULIETH
02/21/2022
I’m sorry, because of everything you’ve been through, that’s very hard, but you must understand that each person is different and not all of us face pain in the same way. It’s good that you are such a strong person.
Julie
10/10/2021
How do I stop my dad’s words from hitting so hard? He invalidates the trauma I have from a situation I had almost 4 years ago, and it makes me so angry that I have more empathy for fictional characters who had things happen to them that were “less serious” or “just as serious” than mine. Not only that, but because of this lack of validation I look for it in others and everyone thinks the opposite of him, I start to calm down but then he invalidates again and I go back to seeking validation from others. It is an infinite cycle. I just need him to understand, thinking that there is something wrong with me or that this “isn’t that bad” doesn’t help me at all, I feel like he will never understand me but I can’t find a way to stop needing that validation from him.
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kach
12/27/2021
I completely understand how you feel and I think it’s best to let him know how you feel in a respectful way. Let him know the way he expresses himself affects you in a negative way. Remember:
1.Don’t scream
2. Stay calm
3.Do not lack respect
4. Let him know you want to have an adult conversation
David
03/10/2022
I ask you a question, you say “I just need him to understand…” why do you need him to understand? And if he doesn’t understand it, what does he take away from you?
I think you don’t need anyone to understand you, not even your parents. Better understand yourself, if you understand yourself, what need do you have for others to validate what you are worth? I say that rather you need to empower yourself and discover yourself who you are, not what society and your parents decide what you are. Better look within yourself for who you are in this life, and to hell with what others say, including your parents. In theory, parents are the best support for their children to discover themselves, but that is not the case; in most cases, parents rather place their demands and frustrations on their children so that they reflect what the parents could not achieve. So empower yourself, know yourself and accept yourself. Once you have reached that communion with yourself, you will not need acceptance from your parents or anyone else.
Julie
10/10/2021
“Everyone takes time to change their opinion” how long exactly? 4 years passed
Elder Ramos
08/25/2021 Hello, I am 17 years old, I feel that my parents do not understand me at all for these reasons:
1. They don’t understand that I forget things at home, they say I’m disobedient and I’m not, it drives me crazy when they scold me ugly and I make them answer badly and argue with them seriously, especially with my mom, I don’t know what. He tells me to leave but I don’t want to leave, I don’t know where to live, I have to ask for forgiveness and he calms down, my dad doesn’t understand me, he doesn’t call me either, I’m going down but he starts screaming desperately and it hurts a lot. I don’t know what to do, even my own family and friends don’t understand me, I don’t know what to do.
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ale
10/11/2021
The same thing happens to me but the difference is that if they told me to leave life happy, I would leave.
Luis Armando Tirado Mendoza
07/28/2021
If I have a problem, my parents don’t respect what I decide. I want to study music, singing and music composition, but they don’t let me and they say it’s a hobby and I know that’s not the case. I see many people who dedicate themselves to this and are supported.
I see teachers who teach them to sing as adults, I want them to
train to be an artist and my parents don’t see that well even though I’m older and I have my savings to study singing, what can I do, thank you
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CAMILA FERNANDA
10/21/2021
Do what you like, life is too short to torment yourself, fight for your dream, if necessary, have a plan b, work on something more as a backup, but don’t leave options, investigate places, don’t think about your parents, it still happens to me, it will be a long road. So that they understand, they had different lives, thoughts, there are rigid minds that, based on their experiences, think that the lives of others will be the same, but be clear about something, this is yours, you must make your decisions, if what you hear does not contribute to you, well, deaf ears, darling, good luck. wenas vibes
Nahuel Ezequiel Cabral
07/24/2021 I am 18 years old and I have serious and severe problems with my father since I think he is toxic deep down but I don’t know what to do.
My father works in the construction of a dam in Argentina and almost after 3 weeks or even vacations he leaves work and when this is disturbing the lives of me and my mother since he is always of a very strong character and almost impossible to control, which has been holding on to me since the first time, he got angry with me for repeating the first year of kindergarten which made me think badly of him forever and for that reason I have been trying not to repeat or else he gets angry and he yells at me. All my life I have been living with a fear inside me which makes me more and more scared. If I fail a test he gets angry because he always wants everything to go well, which made me see it as an obligation to survive, but at the same time I remain firm with the support of my mother who has always helped me with the tasks that are very difficult for me to do. She works cleaning at the institute
From English where I go to study and even in a hotel during every summer, she is always gentle, wise and always knows how to calm me down in the worst situations. But now the situation is more difficult to control since next year I have to choose a career that I like and which will pay me well in order to help my family and me but the truth and the pure truth is that I am not and I am not I feel ready since I don’t think I have the necessary qualities 100% perfected to have a decent job and I don’t have the guts to tell my father the truth because I know he would be very angry with me and take it out as much as possible, that’s why I ask for help To anyone who still knows a group of people who know how to deal with these types of problems, please, so my mother and I can stop experiencing this endless suffering.
Nahuel
07/24/2021
I am 18 years old and I have mild and severe problems regarding my dad. He works in a dam in Argentina and my mother works in a hotel every summer and also cleaning the English institute where I go to study and he makes an effort and helps me with everything, in the tasks that are most difficult to do or when I have to answer answers more clearly since I don’t respond well and I’m always putting her on top of everything but I help around the house, of course I like to watch funny movies or series on YouTube so I don’t feel bad and sad and scared like I always feel all the time and just next year I have to choose a career and I don’t think I’m ready enough to carry it out, I don’t know how to tell my father because he has always been of a very strong character and I try to help in everything and that the Things always turn out well the way he always wants, which he can’t imagine is actually not the case. When my friends visit me and he is at home after getting off work he ruins it completely since he always starts asking my friends and also dares to take them to their houses when they don’t want to but they do it and I don’t like having to expose them to these types of situations. At the same time I feel scared about how things are going to end and if I will still be alive or if by miracle my father will manage to understand me or if I will have to live the rest of my life suffering and being bored without having the opportunity and the time to put the desire into it. being able to talk and chat with more people and make new friends who understand me and can help me but who I can also do my part and help them too because at the same time I don’t want to be a burden for many but still… .