Hello, I need help, I have my boyfriend (I live with him) and we have been living together for about 7 months.
I’m desperate, he has put it in my head that I am a sick, toxic crazy woman, and I would like to know if he is right, it has made me feel very bad, he sees semi-naked women on Facebook or Instagram, photos or videos, I have told him that bothers me and makes me feel less and insecure, but he says that I’m crazy, that this is normal, since they published it on the internet for a reason, and that there’s nothing wrong with it since he doesn’t know them nor will he know them, But it really makes me very insecure to see other women almost naked.
It also happens that we almost never even go out to the supermarket anymore because every time we go out and an attractive or sexy woman passes by, he looks at her from top to bottom and when I complain to him, he tells me that I’m crazy, why wasn’t he looking at her morbidly.
I get a lot of insecurities and anger when I see how he looks at other women and blames me for being crazy.
I don’t know if it’s really wrong, right now we had a fight because I saw that he was watching a video on Facebook of 2 women kissing, I explained to him that it bothers me and makes me feel bad, that I see it as a lack of respect, because If he is with me he should not have desire or have eyes for other women, he tells me that if he is on Facebook it is because they did it to look, and I explained to him that there is a lot of content of everything to see, that one decides what to see and what I don’t see, he could have simply removed it, but he always thinks I’m crazy and treats me very badly and insults me, I don’t know what to do, I don’t know if it’s me or him that’s the problem?
HELP PLEASE, HE TELLS ME THAT I HAVE TO GO TO A PSYCHOLOGIST
maju
05/23/2021
We are going through exactly the same situation and I don’t know what to do anymore :'(
Ana
06/06/2021
Hello, I went through that situation and first of all, she is not crazy at all, he would have to look up that definition in the dictionary, and then I tell you that what he does if it makes you feel bad is not right, and his response is an excuse. Rather to manipulate you and make you believe what he wants. So evaluate how he makes you feel and think about what you want for your future. Wish you all the best.
Angelica
08/16/2021
That phrase, “You are crazy or toxic”, is widely used by abusive and narcissistic people to minimize your feelings and make you believe it little by little. Unfortunately, you are with a person who does not share your same values, the best question they can ask you. That is, you are happy, you want to continue living that life, because if he does not see the bad in what he does, he will never change, focus on yourself, start going out with your friends, go to the gym and you will see that the world does not revolve around you. To him, breathe and question yourself and if that is not your place, remember we are all pure gold in the right place, I will tell you something that will hurt you but it is true, he no longer respects you and he cares little about your feelings.