One of the pillars on which human ties are based is trust. It is the basis of every relationship, from the couple relationship to the employer-employee relationship.
An adequate dose of confidence is essential to face everyday events and face their resolution. An excess can become a risk factor, since it can lead to a bad evaluation of reality and, consequently, being exposed to the consequent dangers.
But mistrust is also bad, because if it is constant it generates fear and one remains on the lookout for something bad to happen, for another person to deceive or betray, which induces a permanent state of suspicion, threat and alert.
The distrustful person for thinking badly is condemned to feel discomfort, loneliness and suffering, since in daily events he glimpses hidden meanings for which he feels harmed. For this reason, he is usually cautious, pessimistic, reserved and not very warm.
It is common for them to misinterpret others due to their suspicion and to show a certain defensive hostility, which is expressed through incomprehensible protests, recurring complaints or a silent but frankly resentful distancing.
It is almost impossible that if distrust prevails, it is possible to have good and deep ties with others, since a certain gesture is considered a slight, a flattery seems ironic or an affectionate greeting is experienced as hypocrisy.
The basis of distrust is the fear of being harmed and not having a defense against threats from other people. Therefore, it has a poor protection function against what is perceived as dangers to integrity in any of its possible manifestations.
Every distrustful person hides someone who is fearful and frightened, with an unworthy and insecure self-image.
Someone who feels so vulnerable that they constantly seek to protect themselves. Frequently, the tension that accumulates leads him to act in such a way that it only tends to make things and his personal bonds worse.
One of the reasons that weakens health and emotional stability the most is precisely the lack of foundations and secure bonds that are nourished by trust in others and, above all, in people who are a point of reference in life. .
At the physical level, important alterations then occur. Among many, increases in hormones such as cortisol (stress), testosterone (aggression) and catecholamines (hypertension, tachycardia, insomnia), which also affect mental functioning (predominance of negative thoughts, jealousy, desire to fight) and brain (greater risk of deterioration).
Mistrust is incompatible with happiness, since it creates a negative internal climate towards others, a hyper-vigilant attitude in all personal relationships and the deep conviction that the other always hides intentions to take advantage, steal, harm or disloyalty.
Conversely, when you trust yourself you are more proactive and effective, when you trust in the future you are happier, and when you trust others, more authentic and enriching relationships are achieved.
Dr. Norberto Abdala, psychiatrist.
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