It is depressing not to have a group of friends/acquaintances, to be able to make plans.
I feel very alone, and my whole life was like that.
As a teenager, 1 or 2 friends at most.
I have to travel soon, and I feel relieved because since it is a new country, I don’t feel so bad about being alone.
But here where I spend so much time.
Like today, the sun came out after 2 weeks I went for a walk alone, and everyone with someone next to them, be it a partner, friend, dog…
I talk to some people but they live in different cities.
One of my friends is a disaster, a bad life, but she has an easy way to relate to people.
That’s why I’ve thought about accepting when they want to give me drugs.
Because I feel like a boring old woman. I have something bad.
I haven’t had a partner since 2019. I have been traumatized by my relationships and also quite a bit by what I see out there.
Guys in a relationship who offer you to meet up and have sex, as if nothing had happened…
The couple is fine, thank you…
Or they just want sex and then don’t say hello.
That’s why I run away from men, but friendship is something else.
On some website I remember seeing a pyramid of “needs” for a human being and they put SEX as something important.
Sex is not important. Socializing is.
Sex is just a little while. You get the urge and that’s it.
Feeling heard, accepted, loved is much more necessary than that.
Weekends are hard for me.
During the week I feel better because I am busier.
I would love to have someone to hang out with. There are so many things that can be done with someone.
I’m pretty lazy doing them alone.
I walked almost the entire city today. And wherever I went, the same image. Accompanied people or single people who went somewhere to meet someone. Even if it’s with their dogs!
Because of my job I travel a lot and I can’t afford it, but to people with stable geographical positions, I would tell them to adopt a dog.
I always went out for a walk with my friends’ dogs, and I always met people along the way.
They also motivate you to go out. Even if you don’t interact with humans, at least you have fun with them.
Unwanted loneliness hurts a lot.
Oscar
04/10/2022
Hello, my name is Oscar, I’m 28 years old and when reading this I felt very identified with you. I’ve only been living in Barcelona for 1 month and even though I enjoy going out, I’m too lazy to do it alone.
Juan Gomez
04/19/2022
Hello Julieta, I feel identified with your words, a lot of strength that there is always one more day to come, there are more people to meet! A hug and I hope you are well wherever you are!!!
father
06/02/2022
Hello, I also feel identified with the issue of loneliness. I want to talk to someone who also wants to do it and I don’t have it. I feel like everyone is busy. But I still go out, even if it’s just for a walk, it helps, it improves my mood a little. Locking myself up makes me very bad and everyone does. I recently traveled…alone…obviously. To a place I didn’t know, I had never been on a plane, I was afraid of the procedures and of course I had difficulties, but I asked for help in the airport where I didn’t know anyone and I solved them, there will always be little angels, otherwise I wouldn’t be able to take the plane. And I’m still alone, but I have to beat this feeling, I want to be well, happy and no one but me can do it. I feel I’m sorry for the days that go by and I lose feeling like this. If someone got this far reading, I want us all to make an effort to get out of this situation. In the paragraph it says as advice “if you know someone, don’t have expectations, just talk.” A hug to everyone and let’s try today to go out alone, without any expectations other than walking and breathing.