Interesting article, certainly entertaining. And the comments are always funny, I have read “how to cope with a person like that”, or “sometimes it’s genetics”. Not to mention the one who writes a lot advertising that he is very cold.
Okay, I’ll write a lot too. Now the real help comes, but I will be “crude”, step of patting on the back:
-You do not have to understand them, nor get along with them, nor tolerate them (like with any other person)
-These types of people do not want superfluous relationships (which coincidentally is what abounds), if you approach them as a colleague, or out of interest, they will smell it from afar.
-Having these characteristics is neither good nor bad, a change is not necessary if you are happy like this. And vice versa, if you are extroverted and that is your nature, and you are happy like that, well, I don’t see the point in change. And if the change is to fit into society, or because someone tells you so, well… my deepest condolences for the loss (of your identity as an individual to become part of the mass of flesh without face or conscience or brain which is the society in which we live).
-If that “cold” person is a family member, or someone close, and they worry you (not out of curiosity or interest, but out of real concern), you can always sit quietly alone (they prefer 1 vs 1) and talk things out. If it is not a real concern, they will also detect it, and you will still not understand them.
-And finishing (I want to do more things this afternoon), for those who come to write a lot and let off some steam. If you feel better with self-compassion, that’s fine too. But if you really don’t like being like that, then change (I’ve stayed in glory, eh, I’ll explain it). First thing, go out to the (p…) street to get some fresh air. Literal. Go see a movie, buy a good book, or have a coffee (you don’t have to be accompanied, calmly do your thing). Or go for a walk, exercise, do hobbies, think about projects for something you like… hell, there are a thousand things to do, both outside and inside the house. Don’t waste your time. And if you still don’t feel good, then loneliness doesn’t suit you, look for plans with people or family, after going out on your own, meeting people won’t be a problem.