We usually talk about well-being as the ideal state for any person, however, moments of discomfort are as inevitable as they are necessary for the harmony of life. In this context, the concept of the “well-being” arises, which integrates and understands the lights and shadows of life as part of a transcendental whole.
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The etymological origin of well-being and well-being
Words do not reflect what we truly are, nor what we can become. When we define ourselves, we limit a part of our personality. Next we will see how the concepts “ser” differ from “estar” and why it is so important to know when to use each word properly.
If we go a little further and review the etymology of the word. In the English language, for example, the verb “to be” refers to both being and being. However, in Spanish, among other languages, a differentiation is made between the essence (being) and the state (how that being is manifesting).
This clarification is extremely important since, Every time we identify with the state we express, we are limiting our entire being and reducing it to a of identity.
Difference between well-being and well-being
Since we are children we have been attributing to ourselves the characteristics that others see in us. expectations, prejudices and from our first. Later, we identify with the behaviors that make us fit into a given culture in general and also into a particular social group.
Until there comes a time when we don’t know how to distinguish the person who performs the behaviors from the behaviors themselves. Now “we are brave” instead of “behaving with », «we are extroverts» instead of «behaving in an extroverted way», All of this ends up sealing an implicit pact with oneself in which any behavior that strays from what “I think I am” is wrong or inappropriate..
However, life, in its continuous ups and downs, requires all kinds of reactions from us in order to act in a balanced and adaptive way.
“Life is about adapting and adapting again.”
Anthony Burgess
Our “being” is much more than the sum of our “states”
Therefore, sometimes we will need to act, following the example, in a cowardly or introverted way. Let’s imagine that a tiger is coming towards us, it would be better to run cowardly than to show courage, or perhaps one day we need to be with ourselves and we don’t feel like socializing, then we will need to show behavior .
In both cases, It can mean suffering for those people identified with this way of being, since they feel that it betrays their identity..
Another example that illustrates the importance of this differentiation is when a person feels that “he is weak” or “unintelligent.” This label was developed as a result of a series of experiences during its development and, as it is part of its psychic structure, it will unconsciously try to confirm it throughout its life.
Getting rid of this will be the first step to develop another, more complete identity.
“If you think you are what and enemies say you are, evidently you don’t know yourself”.
anthony de melo
The distortion of the ego
As we already know, the is everything we think we “are”those states that express the being with which we identify ourselves. The greater the identification of the ego with what it believes “to be”, the greater the positioning and, therefore, the longer and more powerful will be the shadow that will arise in addition.
For this reason, every time we confuse our being with our state, we are giving space and strength to our . The label limits, it is a way of reducing the “being” to its “state”.
From well-being to well-being according to Bioneuroemoción®
Similarly, the English word “Wellbeing” could be translated as “Well-being” or “Bienser”; in this case in we contemplate the “Well-being” as an objective instead of the “Well-being”.
We understand that from a state of centering and coherence (Bienser) we can achieve many moments of Well-being, although The path to that “Well-Being” does not necessarily and continuously have to be experienced as a continuous state of Well-Being.
“The more a thing tends to be permanent, the more it tends to be lifeless”.
alan watts
To achieve this “well-being” it is necessary to live without fear or the since one would be inconceivable without the other.Moving between states without becoming attached to any is what makes us free, what allows us to grow, learn and . Perhaps the key is to understand that I am much more than what I think, say or do, this may be the first step towards the integration of .
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