Guilt: 3 ways to understand and manage it

Why do we feel guilty? Why behind a problem there always has to be someone to blame?

When we blame others we are judging something that we do not consider correct and we repudiate ourselves. Does punishment have any use in managing guilt?

In this podcast, Enric Corbera shares with us how we find a great reward by blame someone else of our misfortunes and explains how to get out of this dynamic to improve our relationships and our lives.

In this video, Sara Pallarés interviews Enric Corbera, who shares some keys to understand our guilt and recognize its origin, with the aim of being able to manage it in such a way that, instead of blocking us, it favors our personal development.

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1. Guilt and punishment

From the Judeo-Christian conception of guilt, we can understand that whoever has the guilt deserves a punishment.

In this connection we can talk about the behaviorist and behavior control mechanisms through positive and negative reinforcements.

However, we also know that the behavior of any living being contains in itself a positive intentiona why and a for what, that leads the person to act in a certain way.

The vast majority of our unconscious behaviorsIn all cases, they seek to cover basic biological needs, such as feelings of security, acceptance, appreciation, etc.

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We are not guilty, but responsible

The repression or the punishment of any behavior, if it does not entail the understanding and coverage of these basic biological needs, it will lead to another behavior, another way of being that manages to supply them.

From all of the above we deduce that guilt, and its consequent punishment, It does not help to solve any conflict. We have to take into account that what we do, and the consequences of our actions.

Only understanding our way of acting and the positive intention from which it comes, we can change our behavior.

2. Guilt as a projection mechanism

Some describe the world we live in as a world of illusion, Bioneuroemotion indicates that it is a world in which we perceive in others what we are not aware of or we repudiate in ourselves.

We call this a term used by Carl Gustav Jung, a disciple of Freud.

In this way, everything what bothers us and even what happens around us, it is part of our own way of beingwhich is projected in our daily life until we become aware of it.

Any opinion or criticism speaks more about ourselves than about the other. When we say that someone is “unpleasant”, “malicious”, “cruel”, “interested”, etc., we are identifying in him/her qualities we don’t want to see in ourselvesor that we do not relate to our ideal “I”, that is, the “ego”.

Everything that bothers us, and even what happens around us, is part of our own personality.

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guilt and shadow

When we don’t recognize that what we see in others is part of our personality, we reject and repress it. Thus, we relegate these proper aspects to the to the unconscious.

In such a way that this information will manifest itself in the situations and people that are part of our daily life until we make it conscious.

When we blame someone for something, we are judging what we do not consider right for us, and thus we perpetuate these circumstances.

“You are only tied to the past with the rope of guilt.”

Anthony De Mello

To undo these projections we must the unconscious, which is what we see in others and around us, so that we can be free from all these conditionings, guilt and punishment.

3. Guilt and forgiveness

When we get stuck in guilt or we hold others responsible for what happens to us, we enter into victimhood.

and we believe we deserve the sympathy and compassion of others, in addition to demand a punishment for the guilty for the mistake made.

This leads us not to movenot to change our way of being, since we believe that punishing the other will solve our problem, alleviating our feeling of guilt and our suffering.

Guilt and integration of the shadow

We don’t realize that what we want to punish in the other is what we punish in ourselves and that, therefore, the only way to.

By forgiving the other, rather, we forgive our judgments, which we project onto others.

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Only then can we free ourselves from the chains that bind us to our own unconscious mandatesand that the universe so fervently wants us to make aware.

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