Gratitude is one of the most effective emotional forces for generating , that state of well-being that offers us peace and satisfaction. Also, it can be the hinge to get out of states of suffering, such as anxiety, victimhood, fear or loss.
Feeling grateful is the other side of any kind of suffering. However, the messages that propose to cover the pain with an overacting of this gratitude can often lead to a lack of empathy or an ingenuine voluntaristic attitude.
In this article we will review some of these obstacles to living a fuller life and how feel gratitude It can be an excellent resource for coping with difficult situations and beginning to enjoy the abundance that we have in our lives.
In this podcast, Enric Corbera explains why the abundance of each person has to do with their state of consciousness. When you live with a grateful heart, you are living in abundance.
In this video Víctor Villalobos, a teacher at ECI, explains how to internally manage moments of discomfort, doubt and uncertainty, and add it to external work with the different aspects of our lives.
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Gratitude in the swing of everyday life
Although a priori it sounds contradictory to feel grateful “despite”, the feeling of gratitude is a very powerful life forcea factor of change of our state of mind and, even more, the source of our.
feel grateful”despite“will allow us to observe and delve into the hidden message of the difficulties and take responsibility for their causes and their solution.
How to do to give thanks despite pain, uncertainty and impatience, defects and own mistakes and others?
How to be thankful in the face of uncertainty
The human brain has a hard time learning something new, what it actually does regularly is recognize information that.
In this sense, uncertainty can generate fear or because the person feels that they do not have control over what may happen.
For example, the fear that an individual experiences in the face of the possible loss of their job can prevent them from opening up to other ways of seeing things and recognizing that they may be facing an opportunity for new professional or economic horizons. This would allow you to generate the internal certainty that attracts more hopeful scenarios.
Show gratitude with the hopes that the uncertain gives
It is essential to understand that, even more important than learning something new, our way of seeing the world is optional and learned and therefore can be transformed.
That is why from Bioneuroemoción we emphasizethanks to all the information that we can observe in our projections, our relationships and our circumstances.
Taking a step in the midst of uncertainty requires courage and patience, especially with yourself. get out of that loop even when the process continues to hurt, it is easier if one chooses the gratitude that arises from the confidence that the decision to evolve was made.
Not knowing what the future holds we have the option to choose to trust that each situation will allow us to know ourselves more and grow as people, or get carried away by the frustration that arises from not nor can I control the results.
You get out of victimhood thanking the lessons learned
The state of gratitude has to do with thank you for everything we have receivedespecially our family history. But this can be a real blow to the ego, as it forces and look only at yourself.
We tend to think that what happens to us is due to external factors. When we don’t like what we feel, we point to something or someone as responsible for this situation.
By blaming the other we renounce our responsibility. However, we forget that this is how we grant power to others and we become victims without the ability to independently manage our lives.
Grateful people learn from their experiences.
When one feels it is impossible to feel gratitude, since he blames others for his difficulties and failures. However, understanding that, in reality, the key to our well-being is in our hands, allows us to be grateful for the learning that arises from each conflict.
For example, a woman who comes from a home with macho parents can reproduce, from rancor and victimhood, that pattern of submission or go to the extreme of a rebellious attitude.
until manages to recognize that, thanks to those thorns, he cultivated his inner strengthher ability to be a different mother, to manage a different leadership in her work and to inspire men and women with a constructive way of being.
Gratitude is characterized by being expansive. The more we appreciate, the more reasons we find to feel grateful.
How to expand the benefit received from gratitude
is the key to gratitude because resentment disappears and we can see the gift (learning) of each of our experiences.
At the first attempt to point to another with the index finger, let’s see that at least three fingers of that same hand are pointing to ourselves.
Take a pen and a piece of paper marking each suffering experienced in one column and, in the other, the virtue that this allowed us to develop, It can be a practical and quick way to start giving thanks.
Stress and anxiety as bridges to gratitude
Anyone can give numerous examples of the different faces that the in their life. Various worries, excessive workload, interpersonal conflicts take their toll on any good intentions that can be determined at the beginning of each day.
he and the They are two emotional states that bring from an imaginary future scenarios where it is believed that control has been lost, which we will never have anyway. We can only manage our way of responding to each circumstance.
The internal state of gratitude can only be experienced in the present. so, a priori, feeling stressed and grateful at the same time seem incompatible.
Nevertheless, feel grateful for the learning opportunity that each stressful situation offers us It is not only possible, but it is the key that allows us to transform suffering into a growth experience that favors our well-being.
A message for our growth
The more stress experience when faced with a situation that we perceive as challenging or dangerousgreater and therefore, the force that pushes us to leave the limits of what is established.
Taking advantage of the energy generated by our emotions allows us to transform crises into gifts necessary to transform our lives and positively influence our environment.
To achieve this, we must be willing to observe and question ourselves: What can I learn from this? What opportunity does this situation offer me? By recognizing each difficulty as a springboard to possibilities of expanding our potentialities we will be able to replace it with a state of gratitude and enthusiasm.
Only in the dark can you see the stars.
Can you be grateful for losses?
What is the key to overcoming a loss? Be it that of a loved one, a job or a material good. Taking charge of the feelings that arise is the first step to achieve a deeper understanding of what these events bring to our lives.
The It is usually a taboo subject and, usually, we lack the resources to manage it. Likewise, the fantasy of living a life without losses prevents us from integrating them as part of the transit through this world.
Letting go is an act of love
It is an act of generosity to let the other go, because When I don’t allow someone or something to leave, I don’t do it for the other, I do it for myself.. So it’s not love, it’s .
Letting go of attachment is facing resistance and surrendering to the inexorable to recognize, with gratitude, everything that impacted that in our lives and continues to live in us. Why nothing exists outside if we do not cultivate it within ourselves.
That is why it is very important to recognize the meaning we give to death or loss. The suffering we associate with it depends on ourselves and is right there the freedom to resignify it, thanking for what it gave us.
Achieve sincerely thank what we believe we no longer have requires of to accompany us in our own pain until it resurfaces the deepest meaning that our own life has.
If it is not in your hands to change a situation that causes you pain, you can always choose the attitude with which you face that suffering.
Abundance is born from a grateful mind
Gratitude has that double strength. Just as it allows us to manage our difficulties so that they become opportunities to further our expertiseit is also one of the most important emotional forces to generate our.
Because, the eye to stop seeing a life full of deficiencies but full of can be gratitude. Because abundance is being sure that we already have everything we need to feel full right now. This is where gratitude comes from.
We see it many times in people with very simple lives who live a long life with satisfaction and in so many young adults who achieve a university education despite the shortcomings of their family.
In this sense, there is a universal law that is constantly active and that says: you’re always getting what you’re giving. If you don’t know what you give, watch what you receive.
It’s not what you have, but what you are
, and is not limited to the accumulation of goods. It manifests in all aspects of life, such as relationships, health, etc.
So, you can experience lack having a lot of money. This is easy to observe in millionaires and socially successful people who fall into addictions, depression or have problematic affective relationships.
Life, as we perceive it, responds to the “vibration” of our mind and heart.if we issue well-being, that will be the answer and in abundance.
How do we deal with difficulties? As we said above, if we take learning and the opportunity to empower our development through gratitudewe can transform them into constructive energy and they will contribute to our expansion and evolution.
How to materialize abundance from gratitude
An anecdote is told about two monks who were praying. One says to the other: “Hey, I always see you happy and, on the other hand, I’m always worried, why is it?”. The other monk looks at him and says: “Maybe it’s because you’re always asking and I give thanks for what I have”.
In daily life we must see that it is not happiness that makes us grateful, but gratitude that makes us happy.
being grateful can be trained. Many times, it is not that we do not recognize what we are or have, but that we simply take it for granted, we naturalize it.
But if we get used to…