The function we fulfill as parents, especially when children are still young, is to protect, guide and help them in any way possible. This parental role has only one real long-term goal: to create free, capable, and autonomous adults.
Educate children to be happy It is the goal that all parents have. However, despite our best intentions, we don’t always know how to do it. In this article we share some keys to a happiness-oriented parenting.
In this podcast, Enric Corbera reminds us that raise children to be happy it involves first achieving an emotional balance in ourselves.
In this video some reflections on raising children are raised, taking into account that it is inevitable to influence children in the same way that we were influenced.
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Learning to be mothers and fathers
As in music, the rests are as important to the final composition as the notes can be. Extrapolated to breeding, the space given to them is as vital as the attention.
Both are the factors that will come together in learning. This balance will change according to the stage in which they are.
No one was born knowing. It is something that is learned through practice and that implies equally intense and complex learning, both for parents and children, it is a joint and two-way process.
A father or a mother develops at the same time as a son or a daughter. We cannot forget that, although they have come through us, .
Teaching our children to learn from their mistakes
When we think we know what is best for them or what we are doing is delay their learningextending a mistake in time, waiting for him to make it when it might be more difficult for him to redeem it, in his adulthood.
By doing so we deprive them of the experience of allowing the evolution of consciousness.which is achieved thanks to living adverse experiences and making mistakes.
When we talk about allowing them to make mistakes, we don’t mean tolerating them playing with sharp objects or touching plugs.
It goes further, the idea is that they can repeat the course, suffer love disappointments, experience interpersonal conflicts with their parents or experience disappointment or disappointment, without all of this involving drama. On the contrary, they are their opportunities to grow, we do not have the right to take them away.
“It is not an easy task to educate young people. Training them, on the other hand, is very simple.”
Rabindranath Tagore
Educate without overprotecting
The poet Lucian Blaga said that “Childhood is the heart of all ages”.
Usuallyparents who sin to his children they have something in common, they usually come from family environments where they did not feel safe or protected, they were not happy children.
For this reason and, sometimes, they tend to commit the same excess that they experienced but in the opposite.
From this point of view, we can understand that overprotecting a child generates the same insecurities as when he was totally unprotected. They never think that they protect them enough because, deep down, it is in themselves that they feel helpless.
Raising happy children involves educating emotions and reason
Pablo Fernández-Berrocal, Professor of Psychology at the University of Malaga, mentions in his that many of the neuroscience investigations of the last 20 years corroborate that to educate the reason is necessary.
We must teach children to manage reason and emotions, as two inseparable complements. This will end up being decisive in dealing with his professional and personal life in the future.
Educate with emotional intelligence
There are data indicating that emotional intelligence facilitates decreases anxiety and improves the child’s clarity and understanding.
In line with all this, we can ask ourselves things like: what is the use of having a large salary, an expensive car, a mansion…, if I don’t feel full with everything I have and I don’t enjoy anything?
What use are many things that I have if I am not able to be at peace with myself? Why have so much if later I am depressed, or have anxiety, or constantly?
Do we educate to feel peace and happiness?
We know that they are, not by chance, in many cases also the “richest” (Denmark, USA…).
You would have to wonder Do I really know the path that a human being must follow to happy? Have I achieved it with myself? Is it necessarily worse for my son / daughter to follow a different path, if he wishes?
The education of emotions is not a luxury, it is a necessity to face from the early stages of the educational process, with a firm purpose: learning to live together and be happy.
The emotional intelligence for personal balance, it must already be present in the families themselves. We cannot delegate this responsibility to schools or institutes.
We must take responsibility and lay the cornerstone of emotional intelligence in our homes, starting with each one of us; so that the children have
Educate to have self-esteem and respect for others
The best inheritance that we can leave our children is great self-love along with respect for themselves and others.
it lies in allowing yourself to experience the great successes, but also knowing how to manage the failures that, sooner or later, you will end up experiencing, in that dance of opposites that we call life.
confidence in themselves and that they have will be the attributes that, one day, will make our children people who will be able to deal with adversity.
Doing it in a balanced way will be your best card in life; and then, let them be what they want to be.
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