Is there someone perfect for every human being? Do we need to find it to complete ourselves? Where does the concept of “soul mates” come from? If you have ever asked yourself these questions, in the following article you can find the answer.
In this excerpt, Enric Corbera will explain the Myth of Romantic Love to discover the myths of the and how to improve them. We could define it as one of the most intense, uncontrollable and special feelings that a human being can feel.
In this video, Enric Corbera will talk about “Wise Love”. We frequently ask ourselves if we really know what love is, for this reason, Enric Corbera will delve into what authentic love is and we will realize that what we understand by love, does not always correspond to what it really is.
What are soul mates?
soul mates and love
According to the mythical account that Aristophanes tells of the origins of love in Plato’s work “Symposium”, The first humans were completely united in both body and body. . The gods were intimidated by his power and that’s when Zeus decided to cut each one in two halves..
Through this myth Aristophanes justifies his explanation about the origin of the desire to love each other.
It states that: «Love is born in every human being; calls the halves of our original nature together; try to do one of two and heal the wound of human nature. Each of us, then, is an “equivalent half” of a human whole…and each of us always seeks the half that equals him.”
saying so love is, in itself, the discovery of one’s own soul mate or, as it is currently said: , what creates the need and the to feel complete.
Do we need our soul mate to feel complete?
The philosopher was referring to the symbolic wound produced by the desire for completeness and, even today, It is common to think of love as the solution to many of our personal problems.. That is to say, as romantic love is conceived, loving union continues to be interpreted as a means to complete our vital deficiencies.
This very common speech that, as we have seen, has its origins thousands of years ago, It is one of the first causes of the conception of the couple as something possessive, dependent and manipulative.
In short, a type of love that ends up leading us to frustration, since our expectations and beliefs are based on unattainable goals, constituting an idealized vision that we cannot transfer or impose on our partner.
True love is not always found in my soul mate
It has happened to all of us, or we have lived closely how a couple we thought was perfect, upon getting to know each other more thoroughly, did not quite “fit in”. Behind the and the mess of the initial crush begins the real test. It consists of recognizing each other and discovering oneself through differencesthrough everything that, although it can be perceived as different, is part of the same essence: the humanity, the wound and the value that each and every one of us have.
Do soul mates exist?
As Plato once told Aristophanes: “true love is much more mundane” or, put another way, as Becker describes in his : When a poet paints his love for you in magnificent verses, he doubts. When I make it known to you in prose, and bad, believe.”
Both authors refer to love, true love, is simpler and more natural than the search for that perfect and ideal being supposedly destined for us. There are no soul mates and, at the same time and even so, each couple, each soul, is a reflection of ours and an opportunity to recognize ourselves in the eyes of the other.
When you change your mentality to go from looking for someone who completes you to someone who completes you, you are taking the first step towards real love, which is not based on projections or idealizations.
It is not about hoping to find someone perfect, made to measure for us, but another authentic and free being, who wants to share their essence and their freedom with us.; And all of this obviously starts from the authenticity and freedom that we are willing to offer and share.
“True love is not known by what it demands, but by what it offers.”
Jacinto Benavente