One of the biggest drawbacks that we present in the midst of our life dynamics is that we usually expect certain actions from others.
Which puts us in a position with a high tendency to frustration and disappointment for not receiving what we expect.
Let’s reprogram our mind
We could say that almost all of us are good candidates for mental reprogramming.
Replacing the current one, with a tendency to drama and complication, for one that allows us to enjoy life and its components much more.
When we are expecting something from someone, in addition to predisposing ourselves as to what we will receive, we spend a little of our time and energy on the matter.
While if we do not expect anything from anyone, we can walk with a little more freedom without the burden of verifying whether or not we receive what we expect.
We all hope starting from what we are
Each of us has criteria, has a personality.
That largely corresponds to particular conditions, beliefs, upbringing, contact with people who somehow influence us and from there we create our behavior patterns.
We don’t just create our pattern, we create one that the rest of the world, especially our most important people, must fit into.
Then what we expect from the other is determined by what we would do or at least think we would do in their place. Which already gives you an important relative factor.
We are all different and in general terms, we are all more or less in the same situation, looking for common things, but with different resources.
And based on the resources of each person, their tools and what defines them, each person will deliver to the other what they consider, which will not necessarily coincide with what the other expects.
let others be
One of the keys to happiness is allowing the other to be as they are, without judging them and without trying to change them.
Unfortunately, many of us believe we own the truth and under the veil of “I want the best for you”, we can influence, pressure and even manipulate those within our reach, in order to direct them to fit our expectations.
Everyone has a way of being, of giving, of loving, which does not coincide with ours does not mean that it is wrong, it is just different and everyone has the right to be respected for what they are.
Just as we like to be respected for who we are.
And without wanting to disappoint anyone, we go through life trying to give our best, even when this does not meet the expectations of those who expect something from us.
No more disappointments.
We get disappointed when someone doesn’t offer us what we want and the invitation is precisely to stop expecting something from someone.
If we receive something we like, we will be pleasantly surprised. And if we do not receive anything or what is offered does not match what we like, we will have much less risk of being disappointed, because we simply were not expecting something.
Let’s love from freedom, without expectations and allow the other to live that experience…
Expecting something from someone is a way of forcibly adjusting it to our expectations and this has nothing to do with freedom. Obviously, if what we receive is far from what we want in our lives, that freedom is also present, so that we can close some doors.
And even open others that show us a different path.
By: Sara Espejo
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