Communicating and speaking are not the same. The communication It encompasses many more aspects, such as knowing how to listen, verbal and non-verbal language.
It is important to recognize that all behavior communicates something, and many times what we say does not match our body language. Keeping this in mind will help us to be more consistent with the message we really want to broadcast.
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The importance of knowing how to communicate
Types of communication
Speaking or issuing words is something that we usually do, the question is: Whenever we talk, do we manage to communicate?
We believe that pronouncing words is communicating with the other, however true communication goes beyond the verb. We can repeat phrases, insist on arguments, try to explain ourselves and yet fail to communicate what we want to convey.
This situation can generate feelings of frustration, misunderstandings and suffering, affecting in different areas of life, such as children,, waves among other.
What we do not express in words, the body communicates
The communication process It is made up of verbal and non-verbal language. Understanding verbal, written communication or oral communication.
Nonverbal language refers to the intensity of the voice, volume, rhythm, posture and gestures. There are multiple studies indicating that most of the meaning of the communication resides in non-verbal language.
Such is the case of Albert MehrabianProfessor Emeritus in Psychology at UCLA University, who in his research showed that 55% of the impact on communication face to face, was determined by body language.
That is why it is essential to understand that even the fact of keeping quiet.
The primary role played by both language itself, and our use of words, affects our ability to be compassionate.
Do you know how to listen? internal dialogue
communication with yourself It is fundamental, since if we do not know how to listen to ourselves, we will be less able to express to others about our desires, needs or opinions.
For this we can develop the habit of observe our thoughts with an innocent mind and recognize what we like, as well as what we reject.
For example, there are many ways to respond to the same experience, and one way to recognize the impact of internal dialogue is to observe how our behavior is affected by the way we talk to each other. That is to say, what we tell ourselves about what happens to us and notice if what we think drives us or stops us.
Communication as a process of self-inquiry
We know that listening to others requires attention, but to learn to listen to ourselves, something fundamental is needed: be completely honest and a dose of compassion. To dare to accept without this discouraging us and we value our experiences, avoiding judging them as good or bad.
A clear example of observation of internal dialogue as are the experiences of author of the book Conversations with God whose first volume appeared in 1995.
at the beginning of the book recounts his personal processsaying that he started writing at a time in his life when “he was deeply unhappy, personally, professionally and emotionally”.
He he felt that his life was a failure at all levels and from his position as a victim he began to write his complaints directly to ” the fountain”, that is, to God. He wrote a kind of “, passionate, full of confusion, distortions and condemnations. And a lot of annoying questions.”.
Inner wisdom arises when we listen with our hearts
This dialogue is characterized by questions about your concerns which, to his surprise, were answered by .
Those answers were attributed by the author to a loving wisdom and superior intelligence, to God. A God who dwells within us and it is part of our life, a notion that is far from the teachings taught in the Western hemisphere.
At the time, this approach generated controversy and prejudice. However Neale D., found in that experience, a new way of relating to himself and to “God”. Awhat encouraged him to and stop living in fear or guilt, granting a greater meaning to your life and your experiences.
“Certain forms of communication, such as moralistic judgments, take us away from our natural state of compassion or solidarity.”
Marshall B. Rosenberg
Difference Between Communicating and Speaking
We can all talk, that is, share information, without any other purpose in between. But in the communication process it is necessary for our message to be understood and even for us to recognize Y with what emotion and intention we do it. in such a way that there is coherence between what we say, feel and do.
«In your deepest feelings your highest truth is hidden».
neale donald walsch
Neale D. shares that for him, part of the communication is based on the expression of feelings, since they act as messengers of the heart. He considers that “Feelings are the language of the soul”. And that if you want to know to what extent something is true for you, you just have to pay attention to how you feel about it.
Sometimes words are the least effective means of communication. This happens because the messages we receive pass through the filter of perception, of the experiences and/or culture in which we were born. Giving what we hear or see our own interpretations.
And the truth is that among all these variants, we easily fall into misunderstandings. That is why the author of Conversations with Godsuggests us guide us further by, that we learn to listen to our emotional states and substitute the word speak for communicate, in such a way that we leave words in the realm of symbols.
Bioneuroemotion applied to communication
Lack of communication in interpersonal conflicts
It is certain that at some point in our lives, we have experienced the .
Human beings have certain limitations when communicating, both with the outside and with ourselves. Conflict aggravated by the that we receive
When it comes to transmitting the message, we tend to omit or distort the information in our verbal communicationespecially when we want to talk about a stressful situation and we do this as a form of defense, on many occasions unconsciously.
As a result, we are not authentic and our non-verbal language shows the inconsistency in which we live Thus, true communication cannot occur, because we are not even understanding ourselves.
Get to know each other so we can truly communicate
We are not taught to listen and listen to us really and neither to understand our emotional states, which is essential to with what we are and feel.
The is a method that helps us , understanding the origin of our emotional experiences and conflictsand provides us with resources that will allow us to manage them with greater empowerment and responsibility.
Learning to listen to ourselves and manage our emotional states allows us to improve our way of communicating with others in all walks of life.
When we don’t just talk, but actually manage to communicate, we establish more satisfying, balanced and healthy relationships. We are more authentic, more empathetic, more effective and, ultimately, .
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