Addiction should never be treated as a crime. It must be approached as a health problem.
Author: Ralph Nader
Addiction is the unconditional surrender of a person to a certain thing, substance, activity, relationship, feelings or events that take over their will and control it, making them dependent on it and which they apparently cannot do without, in the normal course of life. his life.
The subject loses his freedom and becomes a slave to his addiction, and directs all his efforts towards it, uncontrollably.
Addiction refers to a conflict of recognition and lack of protection from mom, and in a much smaller percentage from dad.
They are almost always conflicts related to mom, because she was our first “addiction” and the most important in life.
That to which we are addicted returns us to that love, recognition and protection of mom that we had and lost, or that we never got to have (in which case the addiction is usually more compulsive).
If I present some type of addiction, be it drugs, alcohol, tobacco, tranquilizers, etc. it means that I need my mom to be by my side to face a challenge.
It’s my way of asking for mom’s help in the wrong way. I want her to see me as a “victim”, because she will only help me that way.
And they can be things as simple as facing my adolescence, getting ahead of a school or professional problem.
There’s no age. And of course mom isn’t always there for me, or at least, she’s not a fortune teller.
Addictions are related to the unsaid (addiction). I have no right to express myself. I don’t have the ability to express myself.
So if I don’t express my needs, it will be easier for me to face everything with drugs.
Conflict: Protection, mom. Always in an environment of “fleeing from reality” for fear of not being able to face it.
“Are my parents coming to help me? Don’t you see that I am suffering, that I am dying? “I am not capable of facing a situation.”
“With this (drug) I feel strong.” “With a cigarette, with a drink, with a pill, I feel safe.”
All addiction tries to avoid contact with the emotion that underlies the conflict.
It can be a feeling of existential emptiness, lack of love, a feeling of loneliness, etc.
Our reality makes us suffer and addiction masks our suffering temporarily, only to worsen it later.
There are many types of addictions.
Some of them are considered harmful by society, such as: tobacco, alcohol, drugs, etc.
However, there are others that are well regarded but that are used for the same purpose, among which we can mention work, money, knowledge, success, etc.
Behind each addiction, hidden in the depths of the Being, there is a longing for love, spiritual nourishment, freedom, communication, contact with others, etc.; that our soul needs and that our personality, due to lack of value, of responsibility, seeks a substitute for us, that the more we surrender to it, the more dissatisfaction and frustration it produces.
the or he tries to satisfy his “hunger” for love with food and doesn’t realize that the more he eats, the hungrier he gets.
the alcoholic he longs for love, well-being, sweetness and, “drown his sorrows in wine”, “if you have a drink you will feel better”.
But he does not face his conflicts consciously. He shies away from his responsibilities with the desire to remain the irresponsible child and not be punished. And the wine gives him the world he wants, but in an illusory way.
“I lack warmth, well-being and sweetness.”
“I need love, but what they have given me so far has not been good for me.”
“I want another form of affection, with tenderness, with sweetness.”
On many occasions, alcoholics were unwanted children, even if it was for a moment.
Therefore, the person seeks to hurt himself and be a victim to challenge the father or mother to “love him.”
And in the vast majority of cases they succeed, because the mother or father cares, supports them, welcomes them at home and even gives them money for their alcohol.
Other conflicts that can lead to alcoholism:
Escape from a reality that we consider unacceptable, to forget it.
Conflict of separation from the father.
Way of expressing the truths that I must keep quiet in front of the family (drunkens always tell the truth).
I try to unite dad and mom.
“I want to get me out of hopelessness.”
The tobacco addict He tries to satisfy his desire for communication (freedom) and proximity to his mother (territory) with it.
Smokers try to create that freedom and communication (which they don’t have with their mother) by smoking.
It is common for the mother of a smoker to be a firm mother, who assumes that her son or daughter is strong, who in no way expects to see him or her fail.
Therefore, the person wishes to fill that void of maternal affection (territory) with “smoke”. I live in a situation of loneliness and I selfishly need to hold on to something.
“I am separated from the territory, I feel separated from my mother.”
“I feel invaded in the territory, invaded by my mother.”
“I feel oppressed, trapped.”
There are mothers who show their affection, giving kisses and hugs, but nevertheless, when the child asks for something or asks something, the mother does not consider it important or takes it as if it were a joke, before which the child feels that he is not loved or respected.
The mother says things like: “Oh, how silly”, “You and your stuff”, “Oh, that’s not important”.
What is the hidden biological emotion of a tobacco addict?
“I’m afraid to live, to face reality.”
“I run away from myself.”
“I’m afraid of failing.”
“I don’t know how to love myself, much less express it.”
Cocaine addiction: Conflict of fear of interacting socially linked to a desire to do so and not knowing.
Conflict with a father who overwhelms me, crushes me, who does not protect me or devalues me. “I want to replace my father”, “I hate my father”.
Introversion conflict.
Marijuana Addiction: Drug of the “mother” (María, comes from the “mother” earth and is consumed naturally).
The uterus secretes a cannabinoid (anandamine) that if it is not collected by the bone there will be a failed pregnancy.
We are alive by the cannabinoid and marijuana contains cannabinoids. Adolescence represents a second birth. What am I born for?
Hashish Addiction: Conflicts linked to murders and wars.
Heroin addiction: Gives the impression of great energy and optimism.
Conflict of the separated “hero”, the one that I am not. I let someone down.
Conflict of separation of sex.
Morphine addiction: I can’t stand suffering.
Workaholic: Abandonment conflict. Belief that “I am what I do” and need for recognition “Mom (or dad) did not recognize me.”
Conflict of affective deficiency. Need to prove to my parents that I am good for something.
Avarice: Bit (bit) reservation conflict. “If I give, I’m left without.”
Addiction to success: Conflict of abandonment and recognition. “Mom abandoned me or didn’t recognize me.”
Gambling: Abandonment and recognition. Need to “win” mom’s love. Belief that the prize will allow us to free ourselves from our needs.
Collector: devaluation. Feeling incomplete, “I’m useless”, “I complete myself through my collections”.
Pursuit of records: devaluation. Desire and need to prove that I can be the best at something.
Sex Addiction: Abandonment conflicts. Need to return to the mother or father, to have her protection.
Inability to provide pleasure to oneself.
I am not a product of love but of pleasure, I was conceived in sin.
Or it can also respond to an attempt to compensate for the sex life that my parents wanted to have but could not.
Another widespread and persecuted addiction in our time is drug addiction: hashish, heroin, cocaine, tranquilizers.
And other more dangerous ones that are used as a means to carry out transcendental experiences, such as LSD; In general, they represent a refuge that isolates us from life and from others.
Everything looks rosy.
Conflicts are not such after consuming the drug because it takes us to “another place” or stimulates us enormously.
And all for not facing the reality of living the incarnation according to the designs of our soul and assuming that civilization is the mirror that shows us our own portrait.
Conflict of fear of interacting socially linked to a desire to do so and not knowing.
“The real world is very painful and I don’t want it.”
“Everyday life is unbearable, I want new and wonderful things.”
“I don’t want to relate to a person around me, so I break with everything.”
The desire to travel to other dimensions of consciousness we have to earn it with the effort to develop the soul and the spirit and to achieve it the will is essential.
With drugs, the ability to make conscious decisions and the will of the individual are dissipated.
Drugs and tranquilizers are related to the feeling of feeling distanced, separated or ignored by mom or dad.
It is very common for children with an absent mother or father to fall into drugs or tranquilizers, because these substances make them avoid their “abandonment”, which in many cases is not physical.
They may be the children of parents who are never home or, even though they are, they ignore their child. He finds in drugs, the way to evade that pain.
Conflict with a father who overwhelms me, crushes me, who does not protect me or devalues me. “I want to replace my father”, “I hate my father”.
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